"Dating" what about it??

Hmm...so have you ever thought about it?like...dating ya..i mean if i were to comment on it then the first few words that comes to my mind are-strange,stranger,first time,best actually bestest(haha i think there doesn't exist a word like that but whatever who cares haha) etc.
I mean I know its something that we all do all the time but have you ever thought about the strange part of it. You meet a complete new stranger with this idea of making that person your potential "better-half", or just a random date (where you end up being in bed with each other but never meet up again) etc. But whatever it be, it needs investment in terms of time, money etc. But have you ever wondered like why so much? I mean just to meet that complete new stranger who you might have been chatting for the longest time or who you just met couple of days back and decided to meet or who you just met from one of the hook up websites. Whatever it be, you invest considerable amount of time chatting online, going to those websites, cruising through those profiles sending each other messages sometimes you hit it off sometimes you don't I mean so much for just a meet up? I mean don't you already have enough things to keep you occupied? what about your friends? your family? your job?  Part of the reason may be because we are always looking for something new and someone new. Why do you think there are so many dating websites out there? whether you are gay or straight, the services are a click away. They are there because you demanded it. But sometimes I wonder things have become so instant that what about the traditional idea of dating where you meet each other at a social gathering spend time together and when there existed no such thing called "Sex-dating" or least it wasn't that significant that it got itself categorized under dating!! I guess things evolved where from a more traditional party meetings changed to meeting at a club changing to meeting online to god knows what next. Thanks to the marketing team who are always looking for an idea to give it a "to be adored by masses image" and the whole world will run after it.
But whatever it be there is always going to be you, there is always that person, there is always going to be sex, marriage, kids or if not that far there is going to be again another you and another meeting and another person etc etc with the whole cycle repeating itself again and again. But thanks to the idea of dating and medium mediating its flow from one prospect to the other.
So what next? Just observe what is the next step to the idea of dating I mean what more mode of changes are to be witnessed. Whatever it be there is always something flourishing the idea of dating. So I guess just be part of it and keep playing with it :-)

Was written back in August 2010.

Goals and its limitations

How we define success is a matter of an individuals choice. Success is a very broad terminology as when we talk about it we are referring to its jurisdictions at both our personal and professional fronts of our life. However, it could have its regional/personal aspect as well meaning its measurement varies from person to person and region to region.  When you talk about someones success, what precisely do you perceive from it?  Did you mean he has accomplished what he endeavored or he achieved what society expected from him ? Jinxed?? Well that's what our society i.e. Indian society is about where your success is merely about personal aspirations but fulfilling what has been forged on us even before we were born. Besides few options for instance doctor, lawyer, engineer etc which when and if you don't follow your choice is scrutinized and you are made to feel like you have just made the most foolish decision of your life. Amongst the masses here, its not about what you want to achieve on the basis of your interests but mostly its based upon your strengths, practically there is nothing wrong with that, but do strengths always define our professional goals?  GO ask our parents and they will give you a big nod meaning 'DEFINITELY', hence sacrificing our goals. Even though things have changed dramatically and societal acceptance about our own choices (both personal and professional) has improved figuratively, but still for the most part it still remains a struggle and a massive amount of works needs to be performed to unearth what's lying beneath it.
It needs to be realized that it is no more about following the masses but following what you desire which when accomplished would define success in its true form. This generation has brewed some very different fields of work where people have niche-d their talent and work and hence society needs to address it in a broader way so that more youngsters break in these fields or form their own niche in different areas. Let society and the stereotypical cliche blue collar and white collar jobs NOT be the epitome of ambition for the coming generation, let them not be the yardstick for measuring success and tell us what is right and wrong for us. Let us discover it our self, let us trip, fall, get up, make mistakes and learn from it our self, let us not follow what needs to be followed but create our own identity and create our own path.
If I want to be a photographer let me be one don't ask moronic questions like " that's ok but what do you want to become", did I just not answer?? " I want to be a photographer??" The point is, our interests, our goals, our visions need to be taken and nurtured carefully and seriously.
A lot can be said and written, As I mentioned before, a lot has changed in the recent times but still a lot needs to be done to change the perception of a common man w.r.t to his vision of 'success' and goals.
I hope with time what should come is nothing but change in people's perceptions.

Life and its moments

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life as we expect is seldom the way we want it to be, sometimes within snap of a moment everything changes and you just wonder what just happened. In my case I don't remember a moment when 'things' actually happened the way I wanted it to be be it good, bad or a combination of both. As they always say being positive means viewing the glass as half glass full not half glass empty but can we always visualize it to be that way ? I am sure your first reaction would be why not; even though you at the back of your mind  might have had an itsy-bitsy moment. I try to be optimist myself, at least most of the time, but when you have had series of moments when you have experienced both goods and bads(later being more) you are bound to become a little sceptical at times. Hence you may have moments when you actually begin to view the glass of water as half glass 'empty' but again, hey its a perception that's completely individualistic.

In my 25 years of life experience, I have realized one thing, its good to live in the moment and make the best of what you have now because you never know what may happen tomorrow. In the course of thinking and planning for tomorrow(which I am sure most of the sane and sorted people do) we sometimes forget to live life momentarily. Because honestly guys, life is very unpredictable. You just don't know what is going to happen tomorrow. You may not be alive, you may not have the job you have today, you may not have you loved ones around tomorrow etc life could just present you with anything and then you have to figure it out how you want to deal with it. Even though when I am talking about living life as it comes and enjoying the present, I know its difficult for me to not to think about my future, past etc because I am not so powerful to be able to control my thinking that far.
If you are able to, kudos!! I try but at the same time we cannot really change the fact of life that is
---life has its moments and be it astrology, numerology,science etc we can never accurately predict what is going to be happen tomorrow.